Positive Thinking: The Ruthless Truth About Your Mindset

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Positive Thinking: The Ruthless Truth About Your Mindset

Why Your Mindset Matters

Let’s talk about the ruthless truth about one of the most important— but at the same time, most controversial—topics, shall we?. I’m talking about positive thinking. Some have subjected themselves unconditionally to this philosophy, while others condemn it completely and dismiss it as esoteric humbug. This, of course, has a corresponding impact. While the followers of the first variant—with a permanent grin on their face, rose- coloured glasses over their eyes, and naive trust—simply ignore and smile away any problem, the opponents of positive thinking often become cynics whose glasses are half-empty, whose skies are full of dark clouds, and whose everyday lives are usually quite dull. It’s obvious that both strategies are unsuitable for leading a content life. Nevertheless, I keep hearing the question, “Is positive thinking good or bad now?” Forgive me if I don’t give a direct answer, but I’d like to draw your attention to a very common pitfall that can be seen here in its purest form:

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If The Question Is Wrong, The Answer Doesn’t Matter.

That is exactly the case here. The question has a misleading focus and sets its attention on only one aspect of the big picture, namely the thinking. But at the same time, one ignores the other important factors: the actions, the habits, and the general mindset with which one approaches life with all its tasks. That is what this is all about—the fundamental approach. And as for that, I have a very clear opinion: don’t waste your life on negativity, but be positive. Always. The latest knowledge, the best skills, and the most modern techniques are of no use to you if you impugn your everyday life with a negative attitude. Conversely, this doesn’t mean that you will automatically be successful with a positive mindset. No. An inner attitude based on opportunities and possibilities alone doesn’t allow you to achieve anything at all. But you can achieve everything better with a positive attitude than with a negative attitude.

For over fifteen years, I’ve been studying human behaviour in all its facets. And not even once have I met someone who would have achieved positive results with a negative focus. You are welcome to put this to the test. Take a look at those around you. I’ll bet that you won’t find a successful person whose DNA is encoded for negativity.

A Negative Mindset And Positive Results Are Mutually Exclusive.

So don’t waste your time with negativity, but concentrate on the numerous opportunities and possibilities. This doesn’t mean that problems are disregarded, risks aren’t identified, or other challenges are ignored. On the contrary. The trick is to recognise these situations and, at the same time, think in terms of possible solutions. The focus of your internal patterns of thought is crucial. The quality of our attitude determines the quality of our results. But what does this look like for you? Over the last few years, in my seminars and coaching sessions, I’ve compiled a list of the questions I hear over and over again. Would you like a little taste? Here are my Top Ten:

Positive Thinking: The TOP TEN Problem-Oriented Questions

  1. Why does this always happen to me?
  2. Why can’t I succeed?
  3. Why doesn’t anybody in the company like me?
  4. Why can’t I find my vision?
  5. Why does everything work out for everyone else but me?
  6. Why am I unable to achieve my goals?
  7. Why do I fail every time something happens?
  8. Why do I magically attract problems?
  9. Why me of all people?
  10. Why is change so difficult?

Do any of these look familiar? These questions have one thing in common: they are pointless because they are backwards-facing and problem-oriented. As Albert Einstein aptly stated, “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them.” If you ask yourself solution-oriented questions instead, you’ll immediately see a massive shift in your focus. Here, too, I’ve prepared a Top Ten list for you:

Positive Thinking: The TOP TEN Solution-Oriented Questions

  1. How can I solve this situation?
  2. What can I learn from it?
  3. Who could support or help me?
  4. When have I ever faced a similar situation?
  5. What can I learn from it?
  6. What are the resources I need to reach XYZ?
  7. What could a solution to the problem look like?
  8. How must I change in order to reach the goal?
  9. Which opportunities lurk in this challenge?
  10. How must I think differently in order to achieve the goal?

That’s the small, but subtle, distinction that makes a difference. These positive questions are inevitably followed by positive thinking, decisions and actions, resulting in positive results. A self-reinforcing spiral of success emerges that, over the course of time, deeply anchors itself in your subconscious and reliably does its service there. Of course, even with the most positive mindset, there will still be situations that annoy you, frustrate you, or drive you crazy. Wonderful. Always remember:

Five Minutes Of Whining Is Okay!

Yes, five minutes of whining really is okay. After that, the motto is: positive focus on solutions and possibilities. Because life is just too beautiful to be squandered on negativity. Enjoy every single moment and transform the supposedly big problems into opportunities at least as big. Your most important ally—next to your mindset—is, by the way, a factor you like to forget called humour. Yes, you read that right. Because humour opens the door to every single change. Not just for the small challenges of everyday life, but also for the truly big obstacles. Really, every successful person I know likes to laugh—and a lot—especially about himself. Only those who don’t take themselves too seriously can be taken seriously by those around them. Nobody likes bitter, always serious, and stony contemporaries. After all, these people don’t like themselves very much. The great art is to tackle the supposedly small tasks with great seriousness and laugh at the difficult, seemingly insurmountable, and often frustrating challenges. I would like to conclude this section with the golden rules of a positive mindset:

The Three Golden Rules of a Positive Mindset

  1. Be positive. Always.
  2. Perceive problems, but at the same time, think of opportunities and possibilities.
  3. Humour opens the door to change. Laugh a lot, and often, and don’t take yourself too seriously.

Wonderful things will happen if you let these three rules become your daily companions from now on.

Please let me know what you think about the topic of positive thinking and drop me a comment below.

Best wishes and…let the change begin!

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